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This is a brief invitation into the innerworkings of my brain... Some words are insights into my private thoughts and emotions while others are humorous and carefree... Everything here is my opinion and from my perspective and is in no way meant to offend, harm, or persecute. I merely needed an outlet for the tons of concepts flowing through my head daily. Feel free to comment, but please do so with respect for others as well as yourself.







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Monday, July 30, 2012

Words and Symbols

I realize more and more that many women have the same issue with men across the board. Most problems between males and females across the board, no matter how big or small, come down to one very simple principle: words and actions don't match up.
I notice this amongst my friends (male and female) as well as in my own romantic entanglements. But I also think that men don't always recognize the messages or incongruences they often send out regarding words vs behavior. But women , in turn expect them to AND hold this ignorance against them in many cases.
That's because to us, the two translate so well that we are usually appalled by your genuine inability to see the differences (gentlemen).
For me, personally though, it's the very simple inconsistencies that really piss me off. For example, I really hate it when a guy says he really wants to be with/date a female and yet has done little to nothing in order to make it happen. Like how are you seriously trying to date her, and yet you haven't really put a real bid in by taking her on a real date? Now we could go into detail about what a "real date" is at some other time in some other blog. But know this: How seriously you take the planning and preparation for that date will almost always connect to how seriously she takes your intentions. If its a chill laid back type of date, she'll think you're a chill laid back dude with chill laid back intentions for her.
If she expresses discomfort with something, the swiftness and genuineness you use to handle the situation will tell her all she needs to know about how you feel about her, the situation, and her feelings overall.
The reverse is always true as well but I'm old fashioned though, so I feel that the male in a relationship should always set the tone through his behavior which the woman should then follow.
Anyway though, I just always find it amazing just how common this issue is and yet how far away we are from solving it.

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